Life coaching is not just a profession but an art in itself. It has surfaced in recent years as a highly influential way that people receive help, giving them their personal “helper,” who partners with them in improving all aspects of their lives. It has changed the paradigm of how people obtain help by making it more client-focused.
To a good a life coach, no coaching session can be taken lightly. They view it as a sacred place for another individual, offering them the opportunity to be sincerely heard (for the first time in years for some people), and within that holy space are miracles waiting to happen.
The individual’s own problem-solving abilities start to emerge, and they realize that they can solve their problems without anyone giving them advice. This realization by itself is life-changing. The person starts to appreciate things from a new perspective and digs into that part of themselves that is already aware of the answers. They take control.
Listening totally – that is, with undivided attention fixed on the other individual, is a requirement of life coaching. Rarely is anyone ever listened to in this fast paced world we live in today. A life coach has a natural ability to listen. It is helpful for clients, especially when allowed to bare their souls fully, to have another person actually listen to them. Assisting others in achieving a good life requires more listening than instructing.
When somebody is listened to with complete focus on what they would like to say, they build their own solutions, come up with their own decisions, and see options they never thought were there until now.
When selecting a life coach there are particular qualities you must to look for. A life coach with several certifications may not be naturally attentive or have inborn people skills, while one with zero formal certification can have noteworthy listening skills and helpful insights to offer.
Before choosing a life coach, take time to ask the following questions:
Does the life coach listen well and give you their undivided attention?
Do you feel comfortable enough that you can be fully honest and open to them?
Do you feel they even understand you?
Do you see them as genuine and passionate in the way they deal with you?
Does it seem like they actually have your best interests at heart instead of some hidden agenda?
A life coach should listen to you and provide guidance, not instruct you on how to live your life. They are neither consultants nor therapists. Keep in mind that you are in control. If you meet a life coach who starts telling you how to map your life, run away.